In a state of Arrested Development

It all started with the American Dream and a few generations later we are lost in consumerism
and start giving away our value to the materials we obtain. Artists and films alike
romanticize this dream as middle and lower class people journey their way to a ‘goldmine’.
Whether that be a business venture or a hidden treasure, the spectrum is endless. In any case,
there is an ongoing attempt of selling the dream of starting from mediocrity and reaching heights
that will make the whole society or your little community think you are a shining star.

Apollo 11 Liftoff!
Apollo 11 Liftoff! by NASA’s Marshall Space Flight Center is licensed under CC-BY-NC 2.0

We lose sight of defining ourselves and then our value is based on ‘fitting in’ with neighbors and
the popularity of peers. Social pressure is one the most hard obstacles to overcome since we
identify as “social creatures” but most of the times, the advice one gets from the mass is not
helpful. Listening to good advice is not the same thing as listening to the advice that will get you

When our religion becomes a business and valued by our tithes and offerings, we become a
doomed people. Mules to an engine that never ends. We get depressed and start falling behind
because our bodies aren’t made to constantly be on the go. Our mental health than starts falling
behind our bodies and the next time we really look in the mirror this isn’t the same person that
started with so much enthusiasm.

Where is the stillness? Why do simple life pleasures cost you so much? You realize that the
experiences in life have been reared by hustling and you still have yet to live the life you always
dreamed of as a kid.

Now you’re 25 and you have bills that never stop coming, issues that you don’t have time to
deal with, and still trying to make someone else feel proud of you; other than yourself. Which
doesn’t really make sense since you are the one enduring all the suffering. How in the world
does it make sense to endure pain for everyone else? You suddenly realize this American
Dream’s definition of success was never meant for you because it wraps the storytelling of your
purpose in sales and making millions. This is where the kid in you dies and the dreams you had
only come to life when you sleep.

Famous Heroes of the Kabuki Stage Played by Frogs by Utagawa Kuniyoshi (1798-1861), a woodcut illustration of personified frogs in costume acting out scenes from Kabuki plays. Original from Library of Congress. Digitally enhanced by rawpixel.
Famous Heroes of the Kabuki Stage Played by Frogs by Utagawa Kuniyoshi (1798-1861), a woodcut illustration of personified frogs in costume acting out scenes from Kabuki plays. Original from Library of Congress. Digitally enhanced by rawpixel. by Library of Congress is licensed under CC-CC0 1.0

You spend your youth trying to keep up with a system that in return works against you unless
you fit into the status quo of your peers that share those resources.

What if you don’t fit in? Then your resources become scarce and far in between. What an
effective way to be blackmailed into being just one of them! What an effective way to make
yourself listen to your parents’ advice and look for a good job to make a living, even though
having a job is the worst way to make real money.

But this is only the tip of the iceberg on the dark side of living in a capitalist society. The part of
the dream they don’t sell you. You only find that part out of the journey when you realize how
alone you are on this journey that to success.

stack of usa money and national flag
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What happens when you’re the millionaire out of your family and friends?

And everyone’s nice to you with their hands in your pockets and your time is only of value to them with a price tag attached.

More money should alleviate our problems; right? Yes, in some cases they do but in most
others they only amplify your vices and dysphoria. Currency has a vibration and if you are not in
alignment with that, it can leave you as fast as it comes. You have heard the story of winning
the lottery and becoming a millionaire overnight. If you are not in vibrational alignment with
receiving than that e money, it will flow right through your hands as quickly as you gain it. And
this is where it becomes really important to keep a vision of yourself at all times. It doesn’t
matter where you find yourself right now but where you want to be.

That vision is not just about the place you want to live in, the house, the car and the rest of the
material things you would like to own. It has also something to do with your personality and the
traits you would like to manifest outwards. If you know who you are, then you know what kind of
people you keep near you.

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Success comes with the biggest price tag of all. Your time. This is how life works. For every goal
you desire to attain, you have to sacrifice something in return. In order to achieve success, you
have to sacrifice your time, which means you will have to sacrifice watching Netflix series and
grabbing a beer with your friends.

The American Dream is the recipe to buy back your time; yet we end up buying more materials
to show and tell in front our peers. It never stopped in kindergarten; that was only the beginning
and it only amplified as we grow up in a form of a hobby or shared interest.

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